Own Your Power

Don't let someone else define your self worth.

My dear circle of friends,

Too often we give our power away.

We get offended or take something personally. We host a stream of restless questions in our mind trying to figure out “Why did this person slight me? Did I make a mistake? Why are they not being friendly to me? Is there something wrong with me?”

We dwell on the procession of these questions for a time. We may feel hurt or angry. We definitely feel not good enough. Perhaps we try harder to be liked and accepted at our next encounter. And if we fail, the negative feedback loop in our mind continues.

And just like that we have given our power away.

We have created a shift in the dynamic where now we have diminished ourselves based on a story we have given life to while at the same time magnifying the influence another has over our sense of self.

I have done this. I still do albeit much more rarely now. When I do however, this is what I remind myself…

Stop! Be done!

Do not take personally someone else’s behavior. It has nothing to do with you. Other peoples’ actions and opinions have everything to do with their own thoughts, stories, and history.

You know the person you are. You know what you are proud of yourself for, what areas of growth you want to achieve, what you need to forgive yourself for, as well as any wrongs you need to right. If your side of the street is clean, then be in peace. If it is not, then get busy cleaning it.

Do not let someone else define your self worth. Do not let someone else shackle you. Do not give your power away.

Use your feelings of taking something personally as a cue to compassionately hold the inner young person within and remind that sweet child that they are love and they are loved. Remind them that they are more than good enough and they are worthy.

With that you stand in your power and you are free to be your beautiful self again, unencumbered by the way anyone else may be acting, because it is not personal to you whatsoever.

Sending love,

Whitney

P.S. Thank you Mohamed Nohassi for the beautiful cover photography.